I always wondered why the "people in charge" felt compelled to say things like that. Why didn't they just post the cast list? Why come to us to try to justify themselves in making their choice? It didn't make any of us feel better ---- quite the reverse.
Even in college, I ran into "people in charge" who acted this same way. For instance, I had auditioned for and been chosen to go on European tour as a singer with the jazz band. Then just before we were to leave, the "person in charge" came to me and said, "You are just too pretty and too good a singer for us. We have decided that you can't go after all." (I suppose that had that happened in more recent times, I would have been encouraged to bring up sexual harassment charges against him. But, we didn't know about things like that back then. I didn't even think I was all that pretty!)
Thank goodness, I was raised by a mother who instilled in us that we can grow from our disappointments --- even if we must use our God-given talents along different avenues. I may never know why I was passed over for so many desirable special opportunities in my life, but, I know enough about disappointments that I can go on despite them.